Dealing With Drama

This is for everyone not just if you are transgender. As a high schooler I deal with drama a lot.

I am a drama student and the drama I will be talking about happens during or around drama class. I know ironic. Disclaimer these are my personal opinion and things that have happened to me and you might not have this happen to you. This is all from my point of view and my not be how everyone remembers because everyone looks at and remember things differently. One other thing, I don't know who reads this, but if you do know me or the people I am writing about do not start any more drama.

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Everyone has stuff to deal with and you have to understand that, but nothing ever gives you the right to be mean. If you are preaching hate don't blame it on other people. The first example of drama I am going to use is from my junior year with this guy let's call him Mr.J. This took place during my school's fall show. At the beginning of each show everyone hugs everyone and says "break a leg". Our schools Advance Drama department puts on 4 after school productions and one improv show during school. Mr.J and I worked together in the first production we do at our school, the talent show. I had a great experience working with Mr.J during the talent show. He was funny and nice. It was my first year meeting him, but I had a good experience with him and everyone seemed to like him.

The problems started a little later on in the year. Before we had our show I came out as transgender. I still had to use the boys dressing room because I had not transition yet and I understood that, but it was awkward. I dressed by myself and avoid everyone until everyone was dressed. So opening night rolls around and I wasn't expecting anything. I went around telling people "break a leg" and hug them and people were doing the same, but when I got to Mr.J he refuses to hug me and say "I am not going to pass some laws just so you can be happy." I was so confused I mean what does that have to do with anything? This is how I remember it he may not have said those exact words, but something close. I was shook and very upset. This was my first experience with transphobia that wasn't from my family. My family never tried to hurt me it was just because they didn't know or understand what I was/an going through.

I was in tears and I was glad that some people stood up for me, but after I stopped crying I was angry. I do not deal with my emotions well and back then I never stood up for myself and always pushed down my anger. He was a senior and he was going to graduate at the end of the year. I was angry. I was angry at everyone for forgiving him, I was angry at him for not caring, and most of all I was angry at myself. Then one day I realized that there was nothing I can do to change his mind and that he didn't care and the only person that I was hurting was myself. After that I simply cut him out. I stopped seeing as a person that mattered because he didn't. As a person he was pretty decent, but there were some things I didn't like. I had to realise everyone is allowed to have their own opinions. He could do whatever he wanted and I wouldn't care. Too this day he sometimes returns and everyone fawns over him and he hugs everyone, but me and I don't care and that has lifted a huge weight off of my shoulders.

The next issue of drama takes me back four years to my freshman year. This isn't just some old drama that happened my freshman year this has being going on a building up since freshman year. Let's call the girl this drama is with Table. Well Table is very mean person and doesn't like me for any reason. She says she doesn't like me because I am annoying. The biggest problem about all this was not her, but me because I would let her walk all over me. I would let her get away with anything and not do anything about it. I don't have a lot of friends and ever since my best friend left I haven't had anyone I could really talk to. Table said a whole bunch of mean things one of them is from this year. She said "Who are you going to hang with during grad night you don't have any friends." I have/had this other friend let's call her Ghost and she is friends with Table, but this is a recent development and Ghost and I were friends first. I replied to her that I was going to hang out with Ghost and she replied, "Why she doesn't even like you." I didn't even say anything to her. I didn't want to be mean, but with someone like that who is toxic you can't keep them in your life. I recently told her that I don't care what she has to say and it felt great.

That is all when it comes to drama. Don't let negativity into your life. One last thing, Ghost and I used to share dressing rooms, but she changed and didn't tell me why. I heard by other people she changed because I am trans. I don't know if that is true, but I am not going to look into it. She hasn't caused me any trouble. You have to respect everyone's beliefs and and I don't want to make a big deal if no one gets hurt and she isn't saying anything bad about me. Choose your battles and do what you need to be happy, but don't put your happiness above anyone else and don't put others above yours if they don't deserve it.

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